Relationship Reddit Stories, OP is fed up with the way his mother-in-law treats his family including his children so one day he tells her she’s no longer welcome to the Christmas celebrations.
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0:00 Intro
0:19 Story 1
3:39 Story 1 Comments / OP’s Reply
6:17 Story 1 Update
8:04 Story 1 Final Comment
9:42 Story 2
12:23 Story 2 Comments
14:44 Story 3
16:17 Story 3 Comments
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Story 3. OP is the arsehole. This is why guys can not be guys. We joke around. A lot. About everything and anything. The only thing husband might have been wrong was he did not say it in front of her. Edit to add: it is not laughing behind her back. It is knowing she has no sense of humor and it would cause trouble for him had he said it with her around.
MiL would play favorites with the grandchildren. In her eyes, the first born would always be a bastard child. Even though not through definition. Keep JN MiL away from your children, OP.
S1- completely disagree with people saying OP is an AH for not discussing it with his wife based solely on that. Yes it should be discussed between a couple in something like this but how is OP and bigger an AH for not inviting MIL than his wife is for deciding all on her own that her shit mother can just always come to everything? She sees her talk shit and treat not only her husband like shit but her own son based on something he had 0 control over. So it's ok for wife to be the one who makes these decisions without discussing them but OP does it and he's the biggest AH in the whole story? Nah fuck her
Story 2: WOW.
Im a very good cook, I have won 3 state bbq pit Master championships. Alot of my recipes are used in my restaurants. Do i thunk im better than my chefs? Heck no the wife is pretentious as hell. Also find me someone who hasn't told their SO a white lie to spare their feelings, i doubt you can, OP is such a drama queen.
Sorry, but with story 3… I don't see why everyone is so worked up about this? How the hell is "nah, I just said this to compliment her" trash talking? It's not like he said something like "nah bro her food is digusting". OP is the asshole, no question.
Confused Bride: holy shit… How did you not plan anything for her birthday yourself?!? What a terrible friend…. You're such a douche bag lol
I love organising. I do it to destress or even for fun. BUT people have abused the fact that I like to do it. When you have a skill Family & Friends will expect you to do it for them with no consideration of the time, energy and cost of completing that skill for them.
Story 3: Wth, why do so many people think it's that big of a deal to say this place does that certain type of dish better than his wife? Is she some kind of a child to get offended by that or what. Plus adding all the context makes her behaviour so much worse, OP is such an AH in my opinion.
The food one wasnt about her cooking. It was about saying he lies to her face,implying telling her the truth that he didn't like it would end badly. He made her look bad, embarrassed her, and has been lieing to her. It isn't about the food. OP could have reacted better, yes. But she has every right to be upset about him insulting and embarrassing her behind her back.
Story 2: Hearing Mark trying so hard not to bust out laughing while reading it was hilarious. 🤣 That is definitely a bridezilla, but it seems like she's always like that. The entitled attitude! Wow…just wow.
Having a wedding the day after your birthdays is a dumbass idea.
The reason the other kids in story 1 don't have kids is because they have watched their mums behaviour and don't want them.
Story 1: I can understand why OP did not really want to talk with his wife beforehand and yet he should have done so nevertheless. OP's wife has tolerated her mother's mistreatment of herself, her husband and their kid so long (>4 years) so he had lost all trust in her. So, for me it's ans ESH. MIL should not be invited but that decision involves his wife. I can understand the NTAs but not really the YTAs since both MIL and Wife are bigger AHs than OP.
Here let me rewrite story 3 while keeping the exact same tone (they're never written word for word)
Husband "Its the best I've ever had"
Other "I thought you said your wife's was?"
Husband "Yeah but she was there and it'd be a dick move to insult it. Saying hers was best makes her happy"
Wife eavesdropping "WAHHH! 😭😭😡🤮 stomps feet, throws toys from pram, grand exit, goes for validation from strangers because I know I'm wrong
In other words not just an asshole but a gaping one at that. Not everyday is your day princess.
Story 3: I don't believe the comments who say, they would just wait it out and then speak with their husband…
Story 3: Wife needs to grow thicker skin. If the worst he's ever said is that a restaurant makes a dish better than her, she needs to count her blessings.
Story 1: Wife already knew her mother was abusive to her husband AND HER 4 YEAR OLD SON. She should have told her to kick rocks years ago.
Cocoasneeze in the comments of the last story didn't read the story at all. It's not about the laughing and it's not about someone else making the food better. It's about the implication that he'd outright lie to her just because she's there. That 'if my wife is there, take my words with a grain of salt'. It's got zero to do with the food and everything to do with the pure and utter disrespect this man has for his wife, as if he's flexing about lying to her.
I hate when people only pay attention to part of the information before bringing down their judgement. They just focus on one thing and say 'boo hoo your food isn't as good', no! It's the fact she now can no longer trust what he says to her face. If there's other people around, or alone, it doesn't matter. Whenever she asks him a question now, she's going to be thinking 'is he telling the truth, or is he saying it because I'm here?'
The trust is fractured if not gone now. Yes it's a 'small' matter, but if I heard my lover saying that then laughing about it, I'd be questioning EVERY ANSWER THEY'D EVER GIVEN ME. ESPECIALLY if it was an answer that made me feel better or happier. So no, she's not the asshole for being upset, and depending on how she is with emotions and such, leaving may have been the best choice. Yes, okay, it made a scene and this might be the old man's last NY party, but just because a man is about to pass, doesn't mean everyone is going to be peachy kay with hearing that your partner LIED TO YOUR FACE and seems PROUD of it.
I am not the best with my emotions. I have mental health issues that makes it highly volatile. If I had heard that, in order to save the whole night from turning into a complete shit show, I'd leave. I'd say 'hey I'm sorry I'm not well I need to go home' (not a lie because not well doesn't mean only sick, it means mentally stable too so don't anyone start with me). That way, the old man only thinks you just felt under the weather in some way and went home. Then when the partner's home, then you can start asking him.
All in all NTA, he freaked out and tried to force her to stay. Yes, the yelling was not the best, but if someone wasn't listening to me or trying to force me to stay and take my free will, I'd snap too. Then to argue and pull all those manipulation tactics, something tells me this isn't the first handful of red flags she's had over their time together. It's almost as if he freaked out because he knew he did something wrong and was caught.
NTA the guy however is 1000000000% TA because dude like wow
Sorry for the novel, but after surviving this long, people like that that don't listen to everything annoys the hell out of me. Do better people
Story 1: I think op is forgetting something very importain and that’s is how the grandmother will treat the children different [ie boy is treated like c**p because he was out of wetlock, girl like a princess because op and wife were married] thankfully they went lc with the “grandmother”.
Story 3 – The YTA comments are super off. I don’t think she was upset he was saying her cooking isn’t chef quality. She was likely upset he blatantly admitted to lying to her. Who knows what else he’s lying about, big or small. I’m sure no one in those comments would feel super happy if they overheard someone saying they lie to their face.
I always tell my husband to be honest with me about my cooking because I’d rather him not be stuck eating something he doesn’t like. So if I heard him say this, I would be deeply hurt. And we can’t say what we’d do in a similar situation. Emotions aren’t something we can just turn off. “Oh FIL is dying let me be a perfect angel”. I’m sure the FILs night wasn’t ruined over one human leaving. I’m sure he had just as much fun.
Story 3's annoying… and it at least deserves an ESH but she's definitely the AH. His weird bro water-cooler talk would hurt me and piss me off, but they are definitely right in calling her a princess when honestly she destroyed a family NYE party for the least offensive insult ever. She'd be a princess one way or the other, but I can't get over that she did that with the father ill. The father in law is probably trying to revel in every single special moment he gets left with his family and she didn't have the common decency to just wait to bring it up and communicate later, deliberately storming off to make a scene and in turn make EVERYONE suffer. I love how all of the NTA comments didn't mention the FIL at all. Did they even read it? If FIL makes it to the next NYE, I hope he doesn't invite her to that one.
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First two, no problem with the discussions. The third? Yes, OP made way too big a scene, although her hubby is clearly an AH. However, and this is how bad a person I am, I would have walked in on the convo and said, "that's ok, I say he's good at sex when he can hear me." Mic drop, walk away. But then, I'm not nice.
Why would you have your wedding the day after everyone’s birthday? That seems dumb to me.
Story 3. Everyone going on about the husband insulting and talking shit about his wife. The whole situation boils down too the husband telling a white lie that his wife's food is the best in the world. When I was a kid my dad use to say I made the best cups of tea in the world, looking back at it now i know it was a lie to get me to make him cups of tea. Should I call him up tell him what an asshole he is and then cut all contact for it? Seriously people grow up
im also sittin her like, why would u have ur wedding THE DAY AFTER a close friends b day??? Cuz with how entitled this bride is i wouldnt be surprised if she did that on purpose, cuz outta all those days in a year, why THE DAY after a friend thats so close that they are ur MoH???
Ain't nobody gonna talk about how the wife lets her mother treat her husband like shit